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Do you ever feel like you have no control over your anger? Do you flip out over the smallest things? If so, you are not alone!

Anger is a very normal, healthy emotion - it lets us know when something just isn't quite right in our lives. However, if anger is not handled quickly and properly, it can lead to conflict, it can produce stress, and can even lead to violence. We can't always avoid feeling angry, but we can learn to manage it without violence.

Here are 8 ways to keep your cool!
Find which ones work for you!

  • Count to 10, 20 or 100! (This gives you time to think without reacting purely on emotion.)
  • Take 10 slow, deep breaths! (Your body can't stay tense with proper oxygen!)
  • Listen to some soothing music!
  • Do something active - ride a bike, run, play a sport!
  • Write the angry thoughts down on a paper, or in a journal!
  • Think about things that make you feel good!
  • Go to your room and take a "time out!"
  • Talk to someone you trust who will listen without judging you or tempting you to make negative decisions.
When we are confronted with the feeling of anger, we usually react when we should be responding. The difference between these two is how it will affect you - either positively or negatively.

Reacting

  • Immediate
  • Not thought out (Fighting, yelling, hurting yourself or lashing out at others)
  • "Quick fix"
Responding
  • Long term
  • Logically thought out (Taking time to calm down, thinking about the problem)
  • Solution (Coming up with ways to solve it)